Hang ups & Silent treatment

This is going to be a longer post: but I wanted to share this.

πŸ˜‘ so much truth.

“The silent treatment is a form of mental abuse narcissist use to try and silence the victim” “It erodes victims self esteem” &
“Makes victim feel worthless”

semicolon;

I am a warr;or-
I am worthy.
I am loved.
I am valuable.



If you have ever had the soul-destroying experience of a narcissist, then you will know that it comes with its own set of unique problems. The narcissist lacks empathy and is emotionally immature. Sadly, She/He is not interested in any thoughts or opinions you may have and only gives attention, time and cares about who will dote on them.

 At some point in your relationship, you will undoubtedly be on the receiving end of the silent treatment. Also known as emotional withholding, this is a manipulation technique favoured by those who have narcissistic temperaments. Unlike others who may withdraw because they feel hurt, are sulking, or simply wish to avoid conflict, the narcissist uses stonewalling in order to keep you in your place. She/He becomes enraged if he believes that you have challenged his authority or disrespected him in some way. Constructive criticism does not exist in his warped world. They will walk away, hang up or shut you down before they allow you to point any flaws or share any hurts they may have caused you, it will always be your fault. They will never see it for what it is.

Your desire to work through any conflict helps place the narcissist right back where she/he wants to be: in control. The more you reach out to she/him, the more self-righteous she/he becomes. Every message, telephone call or text you send, is met with utter contempt.

Her/His sense of control is derived from maintaining silence. She/He knows that dialogue will not recommence until she/he feels that you have been sufficiently punished for your misdemeanors.
Even though you may be oblivious to what you are supposed to have done, you will find yourself apologizing. The narcissist never accepts responsibility for his/her actions. He/She knows that by ignoring you, he/she is devaluing your very existence and making you feel insignificant and that’s what they want.



Remember this next time you’re hung up on.




I’m finding this to be the truest of all.. 
thank you for being on this broken journey with me.
Continue to pray because satans foothold is strong.